Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

Book - 2019
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From a New York Times best-selling author, psychotherapist, and national advice columnist, a hilarious, thought-provoking, and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist's world--where her patients are looking for answers (and so is she).
Publisher: Boston :, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt,, 2019
Copyright Date: ©2019
ISBN: 9781328662057
Branch Call Number: 616.8914 GOT NVD
Characteristics: xi, 415 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm


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Lori Gottlieb’s Maybe You Should Talk to Someone ended up being a great look at how therapy works from both the practitioner’s point of view and from her patient’s standpoints. While this often feels like a creative non fiction work more than a recitation of fact, I found this narrative style appealed to me a lot more than, say, an academic treatment would. There were countless insights that needed highlighting and sticky tabbing and revisiting and I wish I had more time with it to do so. Gottlieb’s book covers heavy topics throughout such as mortality, self sabotage and vulnerability (among others) and I found her openness on these topics refreshing and satisfying. Overall, this is a great blend of storytelling, indirect self-help and informative and straightforward writing.

Mar 08, 2021

I struggled to like this book because there was a little too much overly sensitive navel gazing for me. I almost put it down after the first few chapters, but decided to proceed to the end because I had seen so many good reviews for it. There were a few scattered chapters that I felt did offer some really interesting ideas about the theories behind psychotherapy - why it works and why sometimes it doesn't. I could barely stand the author's chapters about "boyfriend" following their breakup, but the sessions with a young thirty-something cancer patient were very eye opening.

Oppressively boring, dense writing and the nadir of professional introspection of a psychotherapy practice.

Nov 13, 2020

Started Nov 3/20, finished Nov 13/20.

Sep 26, 2020

I read this for book club. It wasn't a great discussion read but we were still meeting via Zoom due to COVID. Coworker Lauren passed it along to me. I read it just as dad was dying I found it a really good read especially during that difficult time.

Sep 08, 2020

Makes me want to go to therapy! Sounds fun

Jul 16, 2020

This has FLOORED me. The amount of information, mostly in brilliant quotes, has dazzled me. The case histories and the insight of the author's personal therapy is something that opened me to changes being possible in my miserable little life!

Hope reading this book is a gift to you as well, whoever you are.

Jun 17, 2020

Non fiction novel - modern Mrs Darcy

meeshmorgan May 17, 2020

WOW! An incredibly amazing, spectacular book; it's the best I've read in DECADES!
This book has so many layers . . . On the surface are terms and vocabulary I've needed for years, then there is the story of Ms. Gottlieb's search for therapy, the stories of some of her clients, and a look at the underpinnings of psychology practice, all of which are fascinating.
I'm not a very emotional person, but I found myself so moved I had to stop reading in order to absorb my feelings and clear the tears from my eyes.
I am dumbfounded by the depth of empathy good psychologists find based on the thin premise that a client is asking for help when most of us might want to slap the person and tell them to 'grow up'. This would obviously backfire and exacerbate the problem.
This book is compellingly written by a gifted writer and can be life-changing. It is one that stays with you long after reading it. I'm telling everyone I know how excited I am to have read this. ANYONE can use this book, EVERYONE should!

May 14, 2020

I think people could consider this a "slow" read because yes, it is telling stories of patients and her own therapist visits but its also giving us therapeutic insight all at once. The type of insights therapy patients take in one week at a time and we as readers get all at once which might turn "overwhelming" to "slow" since we have to sit with thought and not plot. That being said, I think it was beautifully human. It made me cry, laugh and honestly sit with myself while seeing myself in these individuals. I would highly recommend.

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